My boyfriend can’t wait for us to have sex

Dear Pastor,

I am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 17 years old. I went to a Bible camp where we were divided into groups and had a discussion.

The counsellor told us to talk freely. I was the shyest among the group, but when the other girls started to speak, I built up enough courage and started to talk. I found out that many of the girls in the group were having sex and their parents were not aware of it. Some started to have sex when they were 14 years old.

Our counsellor told us that we should get ready for sex. The counsellor said it is something we should prepare ourselves to do and we should always use protection, because if we don't, we would end up with STIs. By the time the discussion was finished, all the guys were willing to have sex with the girls. But we also learnt a lot.

My boyfriend has promised me that we can put into practice what we heard at the conference, but I should only have sex with him and no one else.

O.J.

Dear O.J.,

I am glad that at camp you had sessions on sexual education. But I do believe that although the discussion was open to everybody, you shouldn't take the discussion lightly.

You are responsible for how you conduct yourself, whether or not you are in an open forum. People do not easily forget what you said about yourself. In years to come, they will quote you. So please, do not be promiscuous. Do not give your boyfriend the impression that he owns your life, and that you should always be available to him whenever he calls on you for sex.

Pastor